Happily Ever After

I couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw the article “The 7 Steps to Happily Ever After” in the Sunday newspaper this morning. An answered prayer? Hmm..i don’t know..i guess its more to an unexpected reply to a hopeless remark on my facebook status last Friday:

Nc is trying to find the secret of happily ever after. Any such thing??? And got myself a comical reply from a tompinai instead..haha.

Anyway. I’d like to share with u what the article said. It could be an eye opener to all of us..esp those in a relationship or planning to get into one..and live happily ever after.

Caution: No glass sandals or poisoned apples involved – they only exist in fairytales.

Step 1: Find a shared dream for your life together.
Article says: Best of partners never lose sight of the fact that they’re working together to achieve the same big dreams. When you share a dream, you’re a heck a lot more likely to make that dream come true.

Nc says: I’m trying to be more positive nowadays..with the help of some friends. So I will agree 99% on this one. YEP. Find a dream that both of you want to achieve. It doesn’t have to be big dreams. Small hopes that come to life will make you both appreciate each other more. So..huney..how big shall our SHARED dream house will be? hehe

Step 2: Choose each other as your first family.
perfect. Hmm..can this be a perfeArticle says: ..one in which husband and wife are the A-team..an important part of building your self image as a duo (and maybe eventually three.or four..)
Nc says: the dynamic duo. That sounds TOOOO ct excuse to not to live together with your in laws? Haha..

Nc: ok hun lets change into our super A-team outfit
Partner: huney, we don’t need any outfit to be an A-team. We are A team..cant you see? (continues to watch football on TV)Nc: (scribbles off dynamic duo outfit as a SHARED dream)

Step 3: Iginite (and reiginite) a sexual connection.
Article says: ‘who wants the same turkey sandwich over and over again? You want it on a whole wheat! On a toast! As a turkey salad! On a roll!’

Nc says: need I say more?

Step 4: Find a balance between time for two and time for you
Article says: “there are couples that are never apart and there are couples that only see each other on weekends. With the right balance, neither partner feels slighted or smothered.

Nc says: When you’re in a love- long distance, its never balance (*sigh). Its hard. I guess it’s the shared dream basis that keep things alive.

Step 5: Learn how to fight right.
Article says: It means staying focused on the issue at hand and respecting each other’s perspective. Couples that fight right also find ways to defuse the tension, often with humour.

Nc says: Wouldn’t it be good if there is an automatic diffuser in our mind or body that cuts of all words and actions that it sense would lead to an argument???

Nc: (on the edge of anger) ..why the fu*..(automatic diffuser senses bad words that could ignite argument..thus ,).., f..antastic four movie rerun not on yet?
Partner: ( heran) (but smiles)
Nc: (feels the sudden warmth of joy) , Lets go to the movie and forget everything?

Step 6: Face a major challenge together.
Article says:You never know how strong your relationship is until it is tested. When you do make it through in one piece, you might just find yourselves tighter than ever.

Nc says: Think Mr and Mrs Smith (the movie) as in Mr AND Mrs SMITH(not Brangelina).

Step 7: Build a best friendship.
Article says:When you’re true friends, you acknowledge and respect what the other person is; you don’t try to change them. This creates a sense of safety and security when you’re together – you know you’re valued for who you are and you see you’re the value in your partner.

Nc says: One of the greatest thing in life is to be married to your best friend (of the opposite sex of cos!!haha)

There you go. The 7 steps. How many do you have in hand..or would like to have?
I’ll try to take all seven..with God’s blessings.

p/s: I still think the A –team outfit should be STEP 8.